The greatest significance of marriage is to live a good life.

　　Couples who can live a good life will never have a bad marriage. As long as they live with their hearts, marriage has already made sense.

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　　There is a common deadlock in marriage, that is, mutual dissatisfaction. Many couples will even spend a lifetime to prove that the other party is wrong, and they have suffered endless grievances with each other. Marriage can only be maintained because of their own compromise.

　　All these contradictions stem from the unclear nature of marriage. In fact, marriage is the union of two people. The purpose of the combination is not to interpret the romantic bridge, but to find a person to live with himself for the rest of his life. In other words, the greatest meaning of marriage is actually "living".

　　The way home for marriage is always life.

　　"Love is spiritual life, and marriage is real life." There are many lovers who are inseparable when they are in love. Once they are integrated into life, the filter will be broken. In addition, the triviality of life will make people more or less helpless. This is why many lovers complain after their sweet marriage.

　　But can this ending be changed?

　　Actually, I can’t. Because no matter who you marry, you have to integrate into each other’s life in the end, and living is the inevitable way of marriage. Only when love is truly integrated into life, and each other is more willing to work hard for this family and lay a good foundation for future life, can we touch the essence of marriage.

　　All marriages can’t escape life, and the quality of marriage is also determined by the way of living. And a high-quality marriage needs not only "living a good life", but a deeper "living a good life". It is not easy to do this.

　　True happiness is equal to living a good life.

　　Almost every couple who has just entered the marriage hall tries to live a good life in the future, but not every couple can do it, because "living a good life" should pay attention to the way.

　　Some people only care about their own life, and they will be picky about their partners when they are unhappy, so they will have a bad life. Some people care too much about their partner’s feelings, and always try to please each other to make their marriage stable, so it is difficult to live a good life.

　　The former lies in ignoring the feelings of partners and not treating each other as a "community", while the latter lies in ignoring the integrity of marriage, and preference will spoil each other.

　　What should we pay attention to if we really want to live a good life?

　　1. Correct decision-making in the general direction.

　　Life has a general direction, and the general direction of life directly determines the final direction of a marriage. Therefore, the first step to live a good life is to control the general direction of marriage. If you want to give up your job, you should have children when you are poor, and you should go abroad for your other half.

　　2. Think rationally when encountering contradictions.

　　Equally important is the way of managing marriage, the most important of which is the measures to deal with contradictions.

　　American marriage pope John gotman once said: "Even in a happy marriage, couples have to deal with a lot of problems … … Unfortunately, most conflicts in marriage are permanent, and to be precise, this ratio is 69%. "

　　There must be contradictions between husband and wife, which is a difference that even loving couples can’t avoid. If you want to live a good life, you should make rational judgment and thinking first when the contradictions arise.

　　To put it more popularly, we should learn to understand each other’s ideas rather than argue from our own point of view.

　　For all couples, contradictions may never be eliminated, but what we can do is to minimize the negative effects caused by contradictions.

　　3. Treating marriage can reduce expectations.

　　The last and most important point is to lower your expectations.

　　There are always people who hope that marriage can shelter them from the wind and rain, and that love can heal their inner wounds. But the only one who can pull himself out of the quagmire is himself.

　　The higher the expectation of marriage, the more unhappy it will be when the other half is not so perfect. On the contrary, it will lower the expectation and treat the other person as an ordinary person, and the marriage will be more satisfactory.

　　Couples who can live a good life will not have a bad marriage, so don’t overestimate marriage. As long as you live with your heart, marriage has already made sense.